Handling Difficult Students: Building Teacher-Student Relationship

By: Admin 03 July, 2017

Every class has a couple of students who are difficult to handle. Teachers would understand, it is easy when they are not in the class. But when they are sitting in the room, they will disrupt the lesson and make you want to pull your hair out.

It is all about building a teacher-student relationship with every student, even the difficult ones. Unfortunately, the frustrations you feel dealing with difficult students can cause you to make mistakes.


Here is a guide that will help you avoid pitfalls, and hopefully turn those difficult students into your favourite ones.

  1. Never Argue

Arguing with your students puts you and them on equal footing. It also opens an option for other students to think it is okay to argue with the teacher or question their authority. Arguing never gives any result. It is better to use polite dialogue to converse.

  1. Never Force

It is quite normal for teachers to force explanations from difficult students as a form of accountability. But asking why and demanding a response from them almost always ends in resentment. And angry students who dislike their teacher never improve their classroom behaviour.

  1. No false praises

Some teachers try to shower praises on difficult students for small things thinking it would make things better. But because these students can look around at their fellow classmates and know that it’s a sham, false praise doesn’t work. Instead, give only meaningful, heartfelt praise based on true accomplishment.

  1. Stay calm always

When you let students get on your nerves and you lose emotional control, even if it’s just a sigh and an eye roll, you become less effective. Your likeability drops and classroom tension rises. And when difficult students discover they can push your buttons, they’ll try as often as they can.

  1. No misbehaviour

Ignoring misbehaviour is not a solution. Remember you have a classroom full of students who are looking at the teacher for their next move. Instead, follow your classroom management plan as it’s written. If a difficult student breaks a rule, no matter how trivial, enforce it immediately.


The Teacher-Student relationship

What if the two or three (or more) difficult students in your classroom admired you? What if they looked up to you, respected you, trusted you, and liked being in your company?

Your success in helping them change their behaviour would go through the roof, and you’d have peace in your classroom. The fact is, everything hinges on your ability to build relationships with your students.

This article has been inspired by and contains excerpts from SmartClassroomManagement.com. Read the original here.